HALF AND HALF

Dear Me,

“When he [the woodcutter] splits wood, he must place the log on the block and raise his axe. But he must strike the wood with the grain, and he must let the axe fall with its own weight. If he tries to chop across the grain, his effort would be wasted. If he tries to add strength to the swing of the axe, there would be no gain.


Like the woodcutter, we can all benefit from working according to seasonal circumstances. Whether it is the time or the method, true labor is half initiative and half knowing how to let things proceed on their own.”

-Deng Ming Dao

Community

Dear Me,

I once read a quote that said “replacing I with We, Illness becomes Wellness.” To me, this was a striking quote about the power of family, of friends, of community. It spoke to connection and the significance of a social network and of relationships. It emphasized the importance of partners in healing and health.

Individually, each of us has within ourselves capabilities of extraordinary proportions. When individuals come together in partnership, in groups, to solve problems, reach for solutions, to try and make ideas happen, that power to create is compounded, intensified. It is catalyzed.

Original Dear Me Thought

FAIL TO PREPARE, OR PREPARE TO FAIL

Dear Me,

We often have these grand visions on how we are going to start our new year off: on good footing, our best foot forward from the gate. But here I am, stumbling out of the starting gate. Now, complications happen, and sometimes at inopportune times. Such has been the case, as my New Year has been sideswiped by an unexpected derailing. But such a thing is so often part of life. And it is for these reasons, the unexpected, that we should always prepare. As heard by Les Brown, ” better to prepared for an opportunity and not have one, than to have an opportunity and not be prepared.” We should never assumed time will be afforded to us; to plan, to organize, to live. And so we should make use of the time that is actually afforded to us, in the moment. So to end, a quote by Benjamin Franklin:

“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”

-Dear Me Original Thought

YOU FIND YOURSELF

Dear Me,

Life doesn’t just move forward. It’s not a straight and consistent line. As life moves forward, it curves, it swerves, it jerks at the oddest of angles; It slows down – sometimes to the point of feeling like it’s standing still. It speeds up – sometimes wildly sudden and frighteningly fast; It rises high, and dips low; It’s never the same for long, its constantly changing, often in many dimensions – in directions, heights, and at speeds that you can’t predict.

And I have experienced some of that unpredictability during this transition from one year into the next. It’s been one of those endings to a year that changes the mood abruptly, from one extreme to the other. In this case, anticipated celebrations and optimistic forethought all brought to a screeching halt. A change from a cruising speed of comfort and ease to a very real moment of desperate scrambling, and yet of treading water in place. I have been left entering a new year with a very palpable idea of what vulnerability tastes like. My passage from night to day spent chewing on thoughts filled with uncertainty. its been a wild ride in this short time. In an effort to hang on during this turbulent time, and not get disoriented and lost, I turn to inspirational quotes to lift me out of the dragging fog. This quote below by J.M Darhower is one I particularly keep coming back to:

“Things change. Sometimes it’s abrupt. Knocking you off your feet as life throws you a curveball nobody expected, turning worlds upside down…You find yourself somewhere you’ve never been, doing things you’ve never done, being a person you never imagined you would ever be.”

In these last couple days, this is exactly what I have noticed of myself, for good or bad: I’ve changed. I feel the person I was before this moment won’t do. That form of myself would never make it. That version of me would perish under pressure, would never make it out of this. Not really. So I need to change, I need to adapt for the sake of survival; I need to grow fast for the sake of resilience. And for this reason, I’m doing things I’ve never imagined myself doing. I’m being this person a never saw myself being. I have no clue what I’m doing, and no idea how to be this person. There are definitely mistakes. But the point is that this person might make it. This version has a chance. And isn’t that the key to success though? As Eric Thomas said it, “to be able, at any moment, to sacrifice what you are, for what you will become.”

-Dear Me Original Thought

A Single Step

Dear Me,


Lao Tzu, in the Tao Te Ching, so eloquently enlightened, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” This famous line imparts the knowledge that it is a simple and manageable task that begins even the most complex and monumental of journeys. Jeff Olson’s book ” The Slight Edge” is entirely about this. Success and progress are acquired through simple daily actions or inactions, mindfully chosen, and repeated consistently, over time. No matter how big the journey, how large the dream; know that every dream, every goal, starts with a first and fundamental step. It is with a simple action that we build a larger act; a small gesture to a big dream.


Yet, it must be emphasized, that it takes intention and courage to put forth the foot that should take this first step forward. We have got to will our-self forward. It takes the decision to act; that willingness to walk towards our dream, to get us there. And it’s not just the first step, but the everyday steps that build those dreams; piece by piece, foundation up, into existence. It’s constantly and consistently stepping forward that will get us there; that will build upon these seemingly more simple, manageable and achievable task, towards an immensely greater objective.


So while it is important to know the destination, to keep in mind the end goal, and always have our eye on the completed dream; It’s not about two years down the road, its about the next two months; Its about the next two weeks; we need to focus on the next two days; those next twenty minutes. What steps are we taking during that time, during this time, to bring us closer to our destination, our end-goal, to build our dreams? What can we be doing right now, right here, that will bring us closer to there and then?

– Dear Me Original Thought